The Journey to Self-Care: Understanding the Shifts in Our Attitudes
As we navigate through different phases of our lives, it's not uncommon for our attitudes towards others and ourselves to shift. Sometimes, this shift can feel jarring and disorienting. Why do we sometimes stop caring about others? Is it just because we're going through a phase, or are there deeper reasons at play?
Welcome to Reality!
At various stages of our lives, we all go through a period when we question the value of our relationships and interactions with others. But don't worry, it's perfectly normal. For instance, when kids reach a certain age, they start to believe that nothing really matters or that they possess a secret power. This is just a phase that grows out of a desire for autonomy and independence. While it may seem profound now, a few years down the line, you'll look back on these beliefs with amused embarrassment. So, embrace this phase and live your life to the fullest!
Fact: People Are Either Relationship Oriented or Goal Oriented
According to research, people can fall into one of two categories: relationship-oriented or goal-oriented. More often than not, individuals have to shift their focus between these two orientations depending on the circumstances. Relationship-oriented individuals thrive in environments where social connections are strong and meaningful. They prioritize inclusion, others' feelings, and a fulfilling social life. However, this comes at the cost of common sense problem-solving, productivity, and financial savvy.
In contrast, goal-oriented individuals often find themselves walking a path of solitude, both by choice and necessity. They are focused on achieving their goals and tend to struggle with maintaining deep relationships with others. Their life is driven by their ambitions, and they often prioritize their personal goals over social interactions and relationships.
Self-Awareness and Realism
Perhaps you've realized that people are often self-centered and may not value or appreciate your efforts. This realization can be a wake-up call that leads to a shift in your attitude towards others. The truth is, individuals tend to prioritize their own needs and desires, and it's unrealistic to expect everyone to care about us the same way we care about them.
Some people may once have cared deeply about everyone, even to the point of being selfless and prioritizing others above themselves. However, when those same people did not reciprocate this care, it left the individual feeling drained and depleted. This caused a shift in their focus, leading them to prioritize their own needs above all else.
It's important to acknowledge the imperfections and flaws in others, and to understand that not everyone is special or unique. While it's important to maintain healthy relationships, it's equally important to recognize that not every interaction or relationship must be meaningful or fulfilling.
Ultimately, the journey to self-care involves understanding that it's okay to prioritize your own well-being and that no one has to change their attitude just to please others. Embrace the journey and take steps towards a healthier, more balanced life.